Finding the right soil for love is essential for cultivating meaningful relationships. Let’s explore how to prepare this essential foundation.
The Secrets of Inner Work: Preparing Soil for Love
Imagine a tree of love. Not an ordinary one, but an inverted tree—with roots reaching into the sky. What nourishes this amazing plant? From where does it draw its life force? It turns out that before love can take root in our lives, we must prepare special soil for it – the right soil for love that allows feelings to flourish.
This soil is attraction, the first stage in the development of love. It seems strange to think about a stage of love where love itself doesn’t yet exist, doesn’t it? But this is exactly how the process of forming deep connections between people occurs.
Soil for Love: Creating the Foundation for Future Relationships
Attraction is not the trunk, not a branch, and not even a root of our inverted tree of love. It is the soil itself from which the entire tree will grow. Just as keter (the highest point of the soul in the Kabbalistic tradition) is the foundation of the soul, attraction becomes the foundation for love.
It gives us the energy to seek love and nourishes it at each stage of growth. But how do we prepare this soil to make it fertile for future feelings?
Pride and Humility: A Choice That Determines the Height of Flight
In the “Amidah” prayer, there is a line: “and may my soul be like dust.” It doesn’t sound very inspiring, does it? However, there is a deep meaning hidden here.
Pride is truly the Pandora’s box of all spiritual vices. It not only prevents us from genuinely getting to know other people but also blocks the possibility of meeting ourselves and the Creator.
Jewish wisdom compares pride (gaava) to the rising tide (geut), and humility (shiflut) to the ebb tide (shefel). The picture becomes clearer: arrogance floods the shore of possibilities, while humility frees up space for something new.
Why Pride Hinders and Humility Elevates
“Wait,” you might say, “if I have virtues, why can’t I be proud of them?”
Imagine looking at the starry sky. Each star seems special, some brighter than others. But when we remember the infinity of the Universe, all differences between stars become insignificant compared to the vastness of space.
Similarly, when we relate ourselves not only to other people but to the Infinite, our achievements and superiorities lose their significance. In this perspective, we are all equal—equally small and equally valuable.
How Humility Raises Us to the Heights
An amazing paradox: the more we strive for humility, the higher we rise spiritually. It’s like a hot air balloon—the more ballast we drop, the higher we fly.
The Almighty “bends the proud to the ground” but also “raises the humble to the heights.” Humility frees us from the weight of arrogance and allows the soul to soar.
The most wonderful thing is that this elevation happens unconsciously and unintentionally. When we stop clinging to our “self,” we gain access to the superconscious, to the higher levels of the soul.
Nurturing the Soil for Love: Practical Steps to Meet Your Soulmate
Preparing the soil for the tree of love has a very practical application as well. According to Kabbalah, since the Shekhinah (Divine Presence) went into exile, it dwells precisely in earthly dust. Our task is to raise Her from there.
This is symbolically reflected in the verse “awake and sing, you who dwell in dust.” Before meeting their soulmate, people are like those “sleeping in dust.” Love returns them to life, bringing the Shekhinah into their home.
The sages clarify that “one who rests in dust” is one who “became like dust while still alive,” meaning they live humbly. It is precisely our likening ourselves to dust in our soul that gives us the strength to actually rise from it.
Recipe for Inner Work: Cultivating Soil for Love
What does this mean in practice? By developing humility within ourselves, we prepare the soil for love and the proper awakening of the spiritual connection with the soul of our future life partner. We begin the search for a partner from the best starting point.
This doesn’t mean devaluing yourself or losing your individuality. On the contrary, humility creates a living space in the soul where you can truly feel yourself and others, grow and develop.
A life filled with the pursuit of humility not only improves our character but also prepares us for meeting real, deep love—the kind that grows from the soil of attraction and reaches toward the higher levels of the soul.
The Path to True Intimacy Through Inner Work
By developing humility, we perform inner work that invisibly but inevitably affects our future relationships. We create space for something greater than ourselves—for true love that connects not only bodies but also souls.
So the next time you contemplate finding a partner, remember the cultivation of soil for love. Perhaps the best way to find love is not so much looking for the perfect person, but working on yourself, creating fertile soil in your soul for future feelings.
Source: “Anatomy of Reciprocity – Man and Woman” By Rabbi Yitzchak Ginsburgh
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